Back to Center
It just occurred to me, while I unintentionally created a household tip that would fit perfectly on a lifestyle blog, that I focus too much on the outside. There is so much out there to help us improve the way we manage our lives, help us cook better for our kids, be productive in our working day, stay fit and healthy…and I am on the mailing list for several of them! I spend time each day perusing fb posts on new recipe ideas and thinking ‘I must make that for the kids’ or reading a guru’s blog and thinking “I need to do that”! I ponder how I could organize my desk space, contemplate what supplement I should be taking, or talk about how I need to eat more vegetables with my friend who has a health blog – “c’mon, let’s get that garden planted”! There is a lot of thinking about doing, wanting to do, and and anxiety when I haven’t done it yet!
Then funnily, this morning, when I accidentally found an easy way to get my trash bags out the cupboard without opening the cupboard door, I realized how much time I spend externalizing, mulling over all the things that I should do to improve, organize, be better. The absurdity of what happened made me giggle. I could become like that girl who recreates celebrity pics but recreates household tips that are ridiculous.
My husband was alluding to this when he gave me a pep talk yesterday about ‘filling up the spaces in my life’. “How can you be creative if you fill up all the space”? All the blogs are very useful and interesting, don’t get me wrong. I love all the bloggers I read! But, being centered is really important when you want to be creative. Creativity comes from your center, that grounded space inside of you, and not from the outer stratospheres of the worldwide web.
And coming back to your center can be very healing too. That is why I get excited when people discover their Image Type. It can free up a lot of the stuff that we obsess over, clear out the clutter in our minds of how we look or don’t look, so we can see who we really are. Our center also reminds us what life’s all about, what we are all about, what we are supposed to be doing.
I found the book ‘The Alchemist’ on the kitchen table last night; my son is reading it for school. I flipped over to the back cover and it read “To realize one’s destiny is a person’s only obligation”. I didn’t take it in at the time, but how simple is that? How obligated we feel on a day to day basis to achieve so many different things, when really our only obligation is our own destiny. Not so much about externalizing and space filling, but coming back to center.
Working with clients and their personal image, you get to hear the clutter in people’s minds about themselves, i.e. their self-image. Too often it is distorted by the enormous amount of information they take in – what others say to them, about them, how their compare to others, what’s in style therefore what they should wear and what they shouldn’t wear…it is hard to stay centered when we are dealing with our own personal image. Yet, you have to remove yourself from the hub-bub and noise to be able to really focus on what you like, what you don’t like and who you really are.
Getting out of a busy city and moving to a smaller town helped me take time to discover my own image type and develop more of an understanding of my self. I would ideally live in PJ’s all day if I could, bright and fun ones, ethereal and floaty ones, warm and cuddly ones. I love to hibernate, create, be in my own dream world, hence PJ’s fit perfectly. Nothing wrong with that!
If you could find the ideal wardrobe for you, a personal image that fit you perfectly, then that alone helps to center you. It creates a feeling of certaintly, assurance, and safety. You can deal with most things if you are suited and booted in your own way. For me it’s PJ’s, for you it’s what?